1. Being afraid to try something new. Feeling embarrassed or in any way ashamed at sexually venturing into a new technique or position shouldn't be present. Many times your partner is equally embarrassed at suggesting something different. The reality is sex can become rather stale without variety. But the good news is there are hundreds of ways to tremendously spice sex up through new tips, tricks, and techniques, all of which are very natural, fun, and not bizarre, dangerous or crude.

2. Relying on something else like a sex toy to create variety. Many times couples will think that by bringing in sex toys or even erotic videos, that this will create the variety they are looking for. But when you rely on something

3. Relying on sex manuals which are outdated, incomplete and weak. There are many sex manuals which couples will go to for ideas and tips for sexual variety. Unfortunately many of these are outdated and contain the very basics which most couples already know, or else they can be way too freaky and outlandish for the average couple looking to create healthy yet erotic sexual variety. But seeking a lovemaking manual is in fact a great idea, just make sure it provides a good number of tips and techniques, and stresses the importance of variety within sexual intimacy.